Next to knowing your personal values , understanding your attachment style is essential to understanding yourself. Your attachment style is how you connect with others in relationships. I ask all clients to take the following quiz. The Attachment Project has years of research and data and it is easily accessible and free. Take the Attachment Project’s quiz to learn yours.
I am not going to write a a deeper post on attachment because The Attachment Project has everything a client needs to know regarding the different types of attachment styles.
What I find fascinating about attachment;
- It Starts in the Womb. How you attach to others begins to develop in the womb with how a mother is feeling and responding to her baby’s development within her. If she is happy, safe, and committed to her baby’s development, her happy and content hormones and neurotransmitters cross over the blood brain barrier to the baby’s brain. If she is stressed and unsafe, her stress hormones and neurotransmitters also cross over.
- Insecure attachment styles can become secure with good therapy.
- Attachment is primarily how you attach to yourself. Self-secure people can securely attached to others.
more reading and research on the topic:
Columbia Univeristy – Psychiatry
